How Anger Ruins Your Social Capital?

Anger is the fire that burns you at first place. It comes from rejection, disrespect, defamation and hurt. We human beings are surrounded by people of all kinds. Lovely people, ugly people and mediocre people. We form certain bonds with some. There's certain expectation of how we want to be treated. The problem with expectation is it is never fulfilled. The other person will always fall short. People can pamper you at certain extents. You might be celebrity figure in your mind, highly talented, respectable, dignified but in their eyes, you are like everyone else, normal average dramatic guy. The funny thing about human relations is we always know where people place us. Some are very good at pretending. They give you false sense of pampering, but in the end, you'll figure it out. 

The major root of anger is your ego. your notion of self-praise about yourself. Your delusion that you feed every day. We must not let our inner world expose to our external world unless you're strategic and calculated. Once, you reveal too much, you're vulnerable to attack and criticism. 

Guarding your emotion is important. Hiding your anger is important. Seeking validation is stupid thing. Seeking attention is stupid thing. You have personality that you carry, and you cannot change it, but what you can do is be selective in your social interactions. Keep non-judgmental people who don't mock you for your beliefs, for your aura and for your core beliefs. 

There are eight billion people, too many fascinating subjects for you to explore. If you're lucky you will get good friends that may last for lifetime. Keeping a sustainable relations require continuous absence of self in the engagement. Don't show your emotions, don't expose yourself. There are many other platforms for your to do your dramas and theatrics. Some people have this intrinsic dramatic person in them that seeks validation from audience. 

It's often very difficult for creative artists struggling with emotional crisis to maintain the balanced relations. People will frustrate you with their secrecy, with their concealment and with what they keep a secret opinion about you in your absence. It doesn't matter, you have the courage and audacity to be yourself in the world of people pleasing. I am not saying people are not important and drama is, I am saying keep fueling your creative spark without damaging your social relations. Overcoming anger is the sign of maturity and being mature is the sexiest thing. 

At certain age, you cannot just throw tantrums like that. You are expected to behave appropriately. Responsibly, maturely, and sensitively. 

So the fundamental question is this, to learn human behavior should you stop messing with people to learn about them?

The answer is Yes, learn about them, transform that into a literature, fuel your anger into your passion and creative spark and detach from the previous ones. 

Generally, people don't have much to offer. They are boring and dry. Most of them don't have humor, some lack imagination and other lack sensitivity. Hunt for quality people. Honest and authentic ones. You're actor here, you will choose your script and co-actors. You will decide your script and you will decide to keep everyone in their orbits. 

Hold your anger, and start noticing minute details. People have so much to tell you, through their actions. Their actions are like a language they speak. You need to decode that language and make up your mind who belongs to your tribe and then allow people to your company and inner world of thoughts and dynamic world.