The Hollow words!

There are different types of words we speak in different forms. Words can be soothing, they can be harsh, they can create emotional turmoil in you, words can be unsettling, they can defame you, make you feel you like shit. I'm not talking about physical violence, I am talking about the impact of verbal violence anyone could stir. Words can heal you from abuse, like your body heals after burning, words can give you beautiful thoughts, words can make your life hell, and there are people who use impersonal language, completely uninterested, without attachment of any kind as if you're talking to a rock, you can live with someone by creating a distance as if you're stranger, unnoticed, neglected and you're whole existence begin to feel how absent you're in their eyes. That's a rejection of your soul. Of your core. Of your entire existence. Argumentative parents can be difficult for kids, they will view that all relationships are based on a conflict, not on reconciliation and compromise. You have to learn to speak to your old parents, exhausting person, you can release his emotional pain by using certain words or you can increase his emotional burden by speaking some other forms of words. Therapy and counselling is nothing but exchange of words. Emotional damage is deeper than physical one, it can last for decades. You view people from the lens of your damage. You view them as your friend or enemy because of that significant and defining event manifesting itself on repeat cycle in different forms in your life. This how we trap ourselves in emotional crisis. There are words, then the thoughts, emotions and then the actions in the form of certain consequences. 

You cannot understand anyone unless you understand this about anyone. Their words, their stories and their actions, they are trapped in infinite loop in their minds for decades. This is what define them. People are not open about that, about their emotions, they don't express vocally, they are shy about that because of certain dispositions. 

People hiding themselves. That's shame. That must be ingrained in significant childhood trauma. Once you understand your pain, you understand how vulnerable you're in the larger picture of life and how easy it is for you to simply destroy anyone just by speaking hollow words. Words that don't mean anything. No concern, no regard and completely ruthless. 

We all have different faces for everyone around us. You might know from a different context. I'm very dynamic person. How I respond to you is how I place you in my mind. 

Is that person important?

Should I be emotionally available for them?

How I view them?

What words should I speak for them. Be responsible with words, learn about your emotional crisis, trauma, your own world view and don't put people in any frame. Because there's absolutely no frame where the other person can fit in for you and you don't have access to their lives and you are not acquainted with all their faces, their stories and you have not read the script of their emotional roller-coaster. You don't know what hurts them. What makes them cry. You actually don't even them. You only know what they have told you about them. Words reveal us.Words hides us. And words can make us naked. Words can drive us ecstatic and crazy. 

Learn to be carful what you're actually speaking to people around you.